Thursday, December 11, 2008

Party Survival Guide for Introverts

This Sunday afternoon is LiberalChurches' annual church Christmas Potluck Party. This year, it will be held at the church after worship rather than in someones private home. There are quite a few self-proclaimed introverts who are in the LiberalChurch family and a few "closeted" introverts as well. To help them with their social anxiety, I'm posting this link from today's offering from Everyday Change with tips on how to make this time of celebrating our friendships and the season less anxiety producing and more enjoyable for those who may be dreading the afternoon.

1 comment:

ProgressiveChurchlady said...

My apologies that the link doesn't work. Here's the article in it's entirety.

Social Survival Guide

Office parties, neighborhood gatherings, family reunions…without a doubt, the holiday season is the time for get-togethers. Too bad making small talk over cocktails and hors d’oeuvres is your worst nightmare.

You don’t have to be the life of the party, but you don’t want to be a wallflower either. To survive this year’s festivities, follow these simple tips:

Make it a point to arrive early, while the party is still small. (Just not so early that you’re first.)

Ask the host or hostess if you can help prepare, serve or clean up. Keeping your hands busy and moving around eases social jitters. If you get the standard, “Of course not—you’re our guest,” find a way to jump in anyway. No one will refuse help with cleanup.
Faced with small talk, ask open-ended questions and let other people carry the conversation.

Then all you have to do is nod and smile. And remember, going out is about having fun! You don't have to be the life of the party if that's not your bag, but do try to make it a point to meet someone new or reconnect with old friends. Improving relationships now can carry you through the coming year—who knows when you might need someone (or when someone might need you?)